Top Communication Skills

No we don’t need the services of a paid psychologist to tell us that the best relationships are those that are based on good communication. Yet, we rarely endeavor to mend our ways. We carry on without a care in the world along our paths, hoping that somehow everything will just like magic fall into place. At times, it does – thanks to the efforts of our partners. But mostly it does not. We allow the fault lines to deepen and reach a stage where they can no longer be bridged.

The first requirement to have good communication within a relationship is to respect each other. Men who consider their wives inferior will rarely, if ever, strike a long lasting relationships. The same is true of women. If they look down upon their husbands then for sure they can never hope to gain their undivided confidence and affection.

Good communication also requires good listening skills. A husband and a wife must learn to listen to each other. They must pay attention to what their spouse is saying, and respond. Very often, fault lines develop because the husband and wife don’t pay attention to what each other is saying or even try. This can be most frustrating – for both parties.

There should also be empathy. A spouse must show concern when things go wrong. This is the unspoken communication. One does not have to express it. Mere body language becomes a great source of comfort. You feel stronger if your spouse holds your hand and says that you can overcome most of your misfortunes. Suddenly, you don’t feel alone. Then your relationship will deepen.

One of the best ways to build a relationship is to discuss uncomfortable issues. It is not that hard to tell your spouse as to how your boss is always on you back or how you have made a fool of yourself before your colleagues. It requires great courage to speak about your faults. But if you have a caring spouse, and if you believe that she will stand by you, then you must discuss subjects that hurt male egos or female vanities. You will find that you have shed a big psychological burden. And even with that, the emotional bonds between you and your better half will become stronger.

This also applies to sexual relationship. Couples perform much better when they respect each other, and communicate better with each other. The communication need not be through words alone. Simple acts of patting, caressing or holding hands are a great form of communication. They dissolve resentments over perceived or actual slights, bridge distances and generate plenty of positive energy.

Richard Porter
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