August 30th, 2009
How do you measure how effective your communication is ?
Before I go any further this is just a quick note to you to let you know there will be a series of articles posted on this site over the next few months that will assist you to learn effective communication.
Here’s a question for you to consider…
Is there a magic sign that lets you know if you have effective communication or not.
The obvious answer is the results that you get. However the results that you get aren’t neccesarily the results that you want.
When planning any form of communication you need to have a clearly stated outcome, goal or objective. The more detailed that goal is the more likely you are to get what you really want.This is because once you have your goal/s clearly described and recorded you have something to measure your results against. And once you have that specification to measure against you are then able to adjust your results by altering your message to the world.
One of the Pre-suppositions of NLP is that there is no such thing as failure…only feedback. What this means is that by specifying the result that you want, you are then clear on which aspects ( if any ) you haven’t got, yet.
Once you are clear on your expected results or outcomes….
The way that you communicate your message is the next stage.
Now just so you know, I’m not going to go into any great depth here as what you’re learning here is the basics from a five day advanced communications skill training we’ll be releasing shortly. This training will go into such detail that you will be able to get exactly what you want if you apply what you learn.
How you communicate is made up of many aspects. These include:
- Nonverbal – which includes things like the
- way that you dress and your hairstyle as well as
- body postures and positions. These are all aspects of Visual communication. They can be further divided into
- conscious and
- unconscious communication.
- Auditory- This includes your
- language patterns,
- your volume,
- pitch of voice,
- tempo and
- speed of speech.
At a very detailed level there is alsoolfactory which means smell and gustatory or tastes. These last two forms of communication are not so dominant in humans any more but are still important in the ways that animals communicate.
The way that you assemble all of these aspects will determine how effective your communication is. There is also the factorwhich few people talk about which is practising these skills regularly until such times that you become unconsciously skilled at using them. What this means is that in much the same way that you struggled to learn to walk you now do it without having to plan every step. You just get up and you do it.
This article is intended as a pre-frame for further articles I will publish for you. It’s intention is for you to become aware of
How clear you really are on your outcomes or goals
To also become curious about the ways that you are communicating Right now.
To open up your model of the world another NLP term which simply means how you experience the world and your life
And Lastly to close with this thought.
If something is possible in my neurology ( my thinking or life ) then it is also possible in your neurology.
You simply have to learn then apply and practise the skills
- Effective Communication Style : Effective Communication: Imagery (June 14th, 2010)
- Effective Communication no. 1 – Unexpressed Emotions (June 10th, 2010)
- Five Basic Steps to Become an Effective Leader (June 10th, 2010)
- Effective Communication Style : Effective Communication: Economy of Words (June 6th, 2010)
- Web Communication: “Sign, Sign, Everywhere A Sign” (June 6th, 2010)